Before reading this through, don’t forget to greet your fathers on this special day! This is the time in which we recognize fathers and father figures and their contributions to their children, as well as in society. Children in general often see their fathers as a superhero. A man who is strong, brave and someone who can protect you from danger. Often times, we generalize our fathers as someone who does heavy work or “manly” job at home such as: fixing faucet, building chair or repairing a car. We are not mistaken. These are the usual things our fathers do at home. However when it comes to parenting, it can sometimes feel like fathers are second best.
Depictions of dads in the current culture push the stereotype of fathers as inept, emotionally detached, “secondary” parents who are not nearly as important to their children as their mothers. As a result, fathers are often given less importance or role when it comes to being involved with raising their kids. That is not the reality though. It’s a fact that a mother’s love is important and special but having an active father figure plays an equally important role for a healthy development of a child.
So, how to fathers impact in a child’s development?
- Fathers help in boosting self-confidence and emotional stability.
Just like us adults, when we feel loved and valued, more likely we will have higher self-esteem and we will be generally happier and more confident. Same with our children. If they are given enough emotional support, when they are being heard, when they are being valued, it is a priceless gift for. More likely, the children will also show higher stress or frustration tolerance on different circumstances. When the children are confident, they will tend to have less fear in new situations, they will have greater ability to resist peer pressure and they can stand up for themselves.
- Fathers help to increase cognitive ability.
Most of the time, daddies might be a bit of a goofball or the clown in the family. However, fathers can actually help increase your child’s emotional intelligence and problem-solving abilities. Children’s cognitive development increases higher capacity for curiosity and exploration when father are actively involved throughout the first years of child’s life. These children are more likely to have higher scores on verbal and math test and less likely to drop out of school or be involved in juvenile crimes. The absence of a father during childhood can actually can psychologically harm a the child until a lifetime.
- Fathers give a different perspective.
Children are very curious in nature. They have thousands and unending questions and usually, mothers & fathers approach these questions in different ways. Therefore, children will be exposed to different views. This can be a great way to open the children to broad range of thinking and problem-solving. So, active fathers have a distinctive opportunity to share their stand on life and teach their children valuable life skills!
- Fathers are role models.
Fathers provide an affirmative male role model for their children and help in promoting positive behaviours. As a result, children with more father involvement tend to have fewer behavioural and self-control problems, longer attention spans and a higher level of sociability. Children also tend to be more aware of others’ needs, rights, feelings and emotions. Thus, making them more compassionate and generous. Fathers give the perfect mixture of being authoritative and at the same time being loving with clear boundaries and expectations.
- Fathers can make children feel loved.
Everyone has a story and also, not everyone grew up with a father. We cannot deny it, active father makes the children feel loved. Fathers are steady source of love and encouragement and they help ensure that the children grow up happy, healthy and with high self-esteem.